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''For every action you make, you create a reaction.'' And if you're getting a negative reaction with what you're doing, whether it is with a dog, a cat, a horse, or a
child, then we say, ''Adjust your actions so that you begin to get a positive reaction.''
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What happens normally when a child or a horse gets very emotional, we tend to join up with that emotion. But what we have to do is back up and allow them to do what they feel they have to do until they no longer feel like
they have to do it.
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If we say, ''It's my way or the highway'' - if you respond that way with a horse, you'll be on the highway, and the horse will be going his own way.
With a human, they'll act like everything is okay to your face, and all of the sudden they'll be conking you on the head.
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Somewhere along the line, we humans got fear and intimidation mixed up with trust and respect. We think that the more we can intimidate or create fear in a horse or child, or paint them into a corner, the more they are going to be respectful. It's just the opposite. They're going to be brooding and brooding, and one day they can blow up and hurt someone. This is true of a horse or a child.
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we never have to work on the horse or the animal to get the change. We have to work on what we're doing that is causing the reaction, positive or negative. Once you learn to change
and adapt your responses or your actions, you can begin to change and control the reaction on the other side.
But what most people do is, they try to make the child or the horse or the monkey or the dog make all the changes, while they make none. Does that make sense? When we deal with horses, the horse isn't going to change his response until we change our response. We say, ''Whether it is the horse, the child, the dog, or the monkey, he's living what he's learned and he's living it the way he learned it.''
You can take horses that are out of their mind, that are nervous, scared and all shook up - ones that have been like that for years. And within, say, 60 minutes or less, in some cases, you've got them calm, you've got them relaxed. You've got them totally willing to do what you're asking them to do in a calm, relaxed state of mind.
People always ask me how to know if what they're doing is right or not. I always tell them, ''If what you're doing is right you'll get a calm and relaxed response. If what you are doing is wrong, you are going to get a nervous, afraid, fearful response. They may do what you ask them to do, but
it's not what you do, it's how you do what you do that makes a positive experience or a negative experience for the horse or the monkey or the dog, or whatever you're dealing with. It's that response that tells us whether
we're on the right track or not.''
We call it ''adjusting to fit the situation.'' Keep adjusting your actions until you get the reaction that you want. What we're trying to do is create peaceful, harmonious, nonviolent relationships.
Also, the last response that the horse or the child or the monkey made determines your next response. But where we get into trouble is when we do the same thing over and over - again, that's our definition of insanity.
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